“I’m just calling…”
“I’m just following up…”
“I just wanted to ask you…”
The words we use in which to speak has a dramatic effect on our own self-worth and confidence. Yet many of us fall into the trap of using weak language which diminishes our presence and our needs.
How many times have you checked an email, answered the phone, or read a text that started with “just”? How many times have your typed or said this minimizing language?
In the article “The one word you need to stop using immediately” Rose Donohoe addresses how a word that is meant to make a task sound more appealing can simply damage our credibility.
“We use the word ‘just’ to make a polite request,” said Eleni Dracakis, senior organizational psychologist at Left Field Consulting Services. Ms. Dracakis said the word often didn’t just imply we were asking something of the other person, but that we thought they might not want to do it.
“Sometimes it’s used to make something seem less difficult,” she said, noting that our use of the word wasn’t always intentional.
According to Ms. Dracakis, we shouldn’t focus so much on avoiding the specific word as practicing “more assertive language” in general.
Today’s challenge: Before you talk, type, or text, eliminate the word “just” from your statement. You will be amazed how much you use this word unnecessarily and unconsciously.
By eliminating this word from your vocabulary, you will be more assertive and have more confidence in your authentic self.